Give it a break

I just found it, and I think it’s interesting. No offend, it’s just a monologue. Peace! (^^,)

4th April 2009


“I’m so tired.”
“Tired of what?”
“Of all these people judging me.”
“Who judged you?”
“Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab.”
“Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!”
“Yeah! I listen to music without hijab…haha!”
“Maybe she was just giving you advice.”
“I don’t need her advice. I know my religion. Can`t she mind her own business?”
“Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice.”
“Keeping out of my business, that would be nice…”
“But it’s her duty to encourage you do to good.”
“Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean `good` ?”
“Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do.”
“Says who?”
“It’s in the Qur’an, isn’t it?”
“Yes. She did quote me something.”
“She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Qur’an.”
“Yes, but it’s not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important.”
“True. But big things start with small things.”
“That’s a good point, but what you wear is not important. What’s important is to have a good healthy heart.”
“What you wear is not important?”
“That’s what I said.”
“Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?”
“What do you mean?”
“You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting.”
“So, your appearance IS important.”
“No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion.”
“If it’s not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Holy Qur’an?”
“You know I can’t follow all that’s in Qur’an.”
“You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it’s OK?”
“Yes. God is forgiving.”
“God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes.”
“Says who?”
“Says the same book that tells you to cover.”
“But I don’t like hijab, it limits my freedom.”
“But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?!
What`s your definition of freedom anyway?”

“Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do.”
“No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do.”

“Look! I’ve seen so many people who don’t wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wearhijab and are bad people.”
“So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point.”
“I don’t want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I’m OK the way I am without hijab.”
“Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God.”
“You don’t get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!”
“So all these people with hijab never get married?!”
“Okay! What if I get married and my husband doesn’t like it? And wants me to remove it?”
“What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!”
“That’s irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime.”
“Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?”
“But then who would hire me?”
“A company that respects people for who they are.”
“Not after 9-11”
“Yes. After 9-11. Don’t you know about Hanan who just got into med school?
And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore
a white hijab…ummm…”

“Yes. Yasmeen. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE.”
“Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?”
“Why do you reduce womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?”
“You didn’t answer my question.”
“In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood.
But your short sleeves, tight pants…”

“That’s called `fashion`, you live in a cave orsomething? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control
“Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab.”
“Yes. That’s what it is.”
“What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?”
“Well, that’s different.”
“What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab…she was a woman, right?”
“Right, but…”
“But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!”
“Wait, let me finish, I was saying…”
“Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?”
“Specifically how?”
“By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!”
“Doesn’t TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be `attractive’?”
“Of course, it’s fashion.”
“Isn’t that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?”
“Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market.”
“What do you mean?”
“I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products.”
“I don’t get it. What does hijab have to do with products.”
“It has everything to do with that. Don’t you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men…and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.”
“Like I don’t have to buy hijab? Isn’t hijab a product?”
“Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism.”
“Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB!
It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society … Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!”
“Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day.”
“Shut up and I don’t want to hear more about hijab niqab schmijab Punjab!”
She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time.
Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society – but rejected by the Faith:
“Yes!” – to curls on the hair – “No!” – to hijab!

“And he(/she) is indeed a failure who corrupts it [the soul]!”
[Holy Quran,Surah As-Syams 91:10]

“Nay! You prefer the life of this world; While the hereafter is better and
more lasting.”[Holy Quran, Surah Al-A’la: 87:16-17]

“You are the best community (Ummah) raised up for (the benefit of) humanity; enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong and believing in Allah.”[Holy Quran, Surah Ali Imran: 3:110]

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Just a reminder, to all my beloved sisters in Islam. Who willing to sit and think about their ‘future’ that has no harm….

-Hudawwazikra li ulil Albab-

Surah Al-Mukmin (40:54)

A guide and a reminder for men of UNDERSTANDING.

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  1. best2..
    tp nk ty.. adakah wanita ini cakap sorg2?
    dengan sura hati..hehe..

    erm..anyway..situasi cni sgt common skang..conflict psl menutup aurat dan alasan2 spt “org pkai tdung pun bkn baik n org yg tak pkai tdung lg baik etc2”

    moga Allah membuka mata hati merekavdan menetapkan hati kita di jalanNya

  2. to duha : apakah pertanyaan itu untuk membela dan mempertahankan nasib ‘golongan yang sama’? lalala~
    ye, dia cakap sorang2….sama2 tak makan ubat.=p ada kat u tube, gi tengok.

  3. haha..
    mne de bela sape2..
    tapi bgus pe kalau cakap sorg2 yg bawak manfaat..kan? kan? kan?
    cume wanita di atas ni dah terpesong sket la..sbb suara hati die yg baik tu tak mampu nak kawal nafsu die..

    erm..thanks link tuh..

    eh..alang2 cakap pasal ubat(walaupun tade kaitan ngn saye)..teringat lagu opick..tombo ati..atau ubat hati..bes2..

    —-DR.RADZI says: kan2…bersemangat dia membela. haha…ubat? adala kene mengena,gi makan skrg! kikiki.=p gi stadila cik duha,esok nak exam…kalau takut ngantuk,nnt nk tido nnt baru mkn ubat tu. ok? lala~

  4. stuju ngn cik duha @ lebh fames cik dudu..muahaha..
    org slalu ckp `org pkai tdung pn bkn baik sgt`..come on la..grow up people..jgn jadikan ini alasn..lagi satu org slalu ckp,`dia xpkai tdung,xttp aurat,tapi solat cukup je` sye la..tu ade something wrong dgn solat die..`“Sesungguhnya solat itu dapat mencegah seseorang daripada melakukan kemungkaran”..
    lagi satu..kalau dh tahu pkai tdung,pandai2 la bwk dri..pamerkan cri muslimah yg sebena..huhu..mmg bkn senng..sye pn akui..tapi,smpai bile nk tunggu je hidayah dtg tok pkai tdung..huhu..juz pendapt..

    p/s=tahniah mng nasyid hari tu(KUBI bln keseniaan)..adiah bile nk kongsi??lalala..

  5. best2.. lawak pun ade… tp meaningful la~ =)

  6. DR.RADZI says: kan2? tu sebab aku post kat sini…suke betol dialog die. hehe…

  7. Hmm… dalam nak mengajak orang untuk menatap aurat ni, kita kena pikir cara yang terbaik nak ajak supaya mereka dapat terima dengan baik n tak lari makin jauh…
    Kadang-kadang kalau kita cakap direct je “pakai tudung ni wajib!!” or “ko mesti pakai tudung!!!ada dalam Quran!!” orang memang tak boleh nak terima.

    Kita tak boleh samakan keadaan kita dengan orang lain, kadang-kadang untuk kita, alhamdulillah parents dah didik dari kecik, n bila besar alhamdulillah kita tahu n sedar sendiri, tapi tak semua orang macam tu.
    Ada orang yang tidak dididik/didedah tentang ini sejak kecik by parents, jadi bila dah besar, dah ada mindset “tak pakai tudung tak semestinya aku tak baik” etc etc. Biasanya kita mesti nak fikir diri kita betul kan, nak defend actions sendiri…sbb tu pikir macam tu.. Em..faham kan apa yang cuba disampaikan??

    So???Apa kesimpulannya???
    Fikirkan cara terbaik untuk mengajak mereka. Macam miss susi cakap, yang dah tutup aurat tu,tunjuk contoh yang baik n jangan sisihkan mereka. 🙂
    Daripada menegur secara direct benda yang dia dah tahu, lebih baik bagi something untuk trigger dia berfikir sendiri n insyaAllah tergerak untuk menutup aurat.

    Wallahua’lam…Kalo salah pape silalah tegur. *peace*

  8. perempuan2..

    —-DR.RADZI says: kenapa? tiada yang salah dengan perempuan.

  9. Not that I’m impressed a lot, but this is more than I expected when I stumpled upon a link on Furl telling that the info here is quite decent. Thanks.

  10. to Ex Boyfriend : thanks for dropping by…=)


  12. menarik, hal marah ni la dikaitkan dengan nafsu
    biasanya klu marah
    selawat bnayk2
    aman la skit

  13. memang tiada yang salah dgn pompuan..sje je mengeluh..ehee..

  14. My fellow on Orkut shared this link and I’m not dissapointed that I came here.

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